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7 ways to help your child deal with peer pressure
Saying "No" to friends can be hard. Here's how to make it easier.
Great Schools Staff
As kids get older, peer pressure can get in the way of how well they do in school.
Why? By the time they turn seven, children start caring more and more about what other kids think of them — and less about what their parents or other adults think.
Kids who want to get approval from their peers and become more popular will often take part in risky behavior like cheating in class, shoplifting, tagging, drugs, alcohol, and sex — all which can send them on a downward spiral and take them away from focusing on their education.
Here are six other ways to help your child resist peer pressure and stay on the right path:
1. Don’t overreact
When your child talks with you about what friends are doing, you may hear things that upset you. But if you overreact or lecture, your child won’t want to bring these issues up again. Stay as calm as you can, without yelling, blaming, of lecturing. Instead, use these moments to get your child thinking about the consequences of risky behavior: “I wonder if your friend realizes she could be arrested for shoplifting?”
2. Talk about what makes a true friend.
Help your child understand that a friend who is pressuring him to do something dangerous, hurtful, or illegal is not much of a friend.
3. Get to know your child’s friends.
Encourage your child to invite friends home. Having his peers around will help you decide whether they are good or bad influences.
4. Talk about what independence really means.
At this age, your child wants more independence. Point out that if this is a goal of his, he shouldn’t let other kids decide what she should be doing — that’s not independence!
5. Role play peer pressure.
Ask your child what he wishes he could say to his friends if he didn’t have to worry about what they’d say if he said “No.” Then suggest ways he can say it. Keep your advice short and to the point. Remind him it’s easiest to stick with simple things that he can say comfortably. "Sorry that's not me. Not going to do it."
6. Model saying “No”.
When your child hears you setting limits clearly, firmly, and without a lot of explanation, this helps him see that it’s OK to do the same. When you say, “No, that’s not okay with me,” you’re giving your child the same language he can say when someone tries to talk him into doing something he shouldn’t.
7. Get you child in a positive group.
Church and scouts are great. So are Martial Arts. Martial Arts are "cool", they instill confidence and they teach kids to fight and stand up for themselves. "Sometimes saying "no" isn't enough for bullies and peers. You must stand up for yourself even if you have to stand up alone. All kids should take at least 1 year of martial arts for confidence, fun and fitness." Grand Master Greg Silva Black Belt Schools International.
Crystal Dragon Martial Arts
Little Ninja Classes are held on Monday (Advanced) 5:00-5:30 and Thursday (Beginners) 5:00 to 5:30 from September through June. Although classes are run in six week sessions, students may start at any time during the September - June window. Age level from 4+ to 7.
Ninja Junior Classes are held on Monday and Thursday (both nights) and run throughout the year. Classes are from 5:30 PM to 6:25 PM. Age level from 7 to 12. Ninja juniors are also invited to attend our open classes on Saturday (see below).
Adult Karate Classes are held on Monday and Thursday (both nights) and run throughout the year. Classes are from 6:30 to 7:30 PM. Age level includes mature teens and all adult levels. Members are also encouraged to attend our open classes which are held on Saturday mornings (see below).
Open Classes are held on Saturdays from 10:00 to 11:00 AM. They are open to Ninja Juniors and adults and include a varied curriculum.
Tai Chi Classes are held on Saturday mornings from 9:00 to 10:00 AM. Please call for details. 330-482-1244
Weapons Classes are held on Saturday mornings from 11:00 to 12:00 PM. Please check with instructor for details.
Goshin Jutsu Karate
Goshin Jutsu (translates as "defending the body art" or self-defense in Japanese) is a Japanese based style utilizing the blocking, punching and kicking of karate and the joint locking and throws of jujutsu and aiki jutsu. The system also incorporates many of the traditional Okinawan and Japanese weapons. Goshin Jutsu is very practical and effective for people of all ages, body types and physical abilities.
Tai Chi Chi Kung
Tai Chi Chuan is a Chinese Martial Art that was found to promote good health among its practioners. Our new program of Tai Chi Chi Kung introduces students to the health practices of Chi Kung (Qigong) or "energy discipline" utilizing a short Yang style tai chi form. Its low impact, gentle and flowing movements make it an ideal form of exercise even for individuals with some physical limitations and chronic illnesses.
The Crystal Dragon children's program is designed to make the learning of martial arts safe and enjoyable. Our reward system improves children's self-esteem. Our class structure teaches discipline, concentration, and self-control. Our class activities channel children's energy in a positive direction. Class etiquette teaches respect for others as well as themselves. Starting from ages 7 and up, our program will improve your child's performance in all other sports as well as improving study habits and concentration.
Our specialized Little Ninja's program is an age-specific curriculum that is professionally designed to teach children ages 4-6 important life skills in a fun, exciting and enriching manner. Your child will develop coordination, concentration and self-control through the fun and exciting Little Ninjas martial arts skills.
Your child will achieve more than just learning to kick and punch. The Little Ninja drills will keep your child physically fit and many of the group activities show children the benefits of good behavior.
Little Ninja Classes help prepare your child for life. Little Ninjas will improve your child's basic motor skills, as well as your child's positive mental skills. These skills will help your child enter society with a confident and enthusiastic outlook. Your child will become a better student in school, a better listener at home and feel more ambitious towards his/her future goals.
Let us help enhance your child's mental and physical development in a fun, positive and motivating way.
Enroll your child today and help prepare them for life! Class sizes are limited so call now to reserve your child's space. 330-482-1244
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